Still, not all relationships with exes are a bad thing – there are plenty of guys who are friends with their ex-girlfriend and it’s not an issue.
The question is, what does it mean for you when your boyfriend still talks to his ex-girlfriend?
When I started writing Ask a Guy, I had no idea that it would take off like it has.
I am grateful to have such loyal readers who contribute great questions to me.
In a few days, I’m going to Cuba on vacation with a guy I’ve been sleeping with for eight years, but whom I've never once called my boyfriend.
We live on different continents, but inevitably, a few times a year, we find each other somewhere in the world, have a few days of romance, and then go our separate ways.
When I met him, he was 45 and charmingly grumpy, and he would always tell me: “Sex is so perfect. ” I’d go over to his apartment for a couple hours in the afternoons, we’d have sex (soberly, which meant I could actually cum), and then afterward we’d drink tea and complain about stuff. There were times when we saw each other frequently, and other times when things dropped off for a while, usually because one of us had a partner. It felt like we had entered this secretive bubble of transparency—we were emotionally intimate, yet free of the burden of jealousy and ownership.
So what is it about the friends with benefits dynamic that is more sustainable, and often more transparent, than an actual relationship? They’re like: How can you have sex with the same person, again and again, without falling in love?Between swigs of her martini, she told me she was going to share the most important lesson she ever learned about men, women and dating: Men are idiots. If you can find a man who is less of an idiot than most, or a girl who is less crazy than most, then you’ve done well. They are typically an endless recounting of little details and interactions that swing the poor girl back and forth between thinking he’s into her and thinking he’s not. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – walking down the path of distrust or suspicion is a slippery slope. Check out these two articles that explore the topic of trust in relationships/dating: Does My Boyfriend Really Mean What He Says? Detailed answer here: Can a Girl Say I Love You First?Let me make this whole thing easy for you: If you can’t tell whether or not he likes you, your best bet is to strongly that he does and give him clear and obvious opportunities for him to make a move for you (assuming you’re into him and not just wondering for vanity’s sake.) He’s shy? If a guy doesn’t call, it means he’s just not that into me, right?There was a woman I was talking to at a bar a few weeks ago. Here’s a whole boatload of common relationship stuff. Here’s some of what I consider some of my best articles to answer the most common questions: Why Didn’t He Text Back? , How To Get Out of The Friend Zone With a Guy He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not Another major type of question is trying to figure out the guy’s feelings or where she stands with the guy she’s seeing. A lot of the time, I’ll get questions from women who feel in their heart that they want to make a move or move in a certain direction, but really don’t know if it’s the right move or not. And my very best on what makes him emotionally bond with you and fall in love: What Do Men Want In A Woman and How Do You Find Love Making a Long Distance Relationship Work Everything you need to know to have a successful long distance relationship here: Long Distance Relationship Advice (LDR Advice) Can a Girl Say ‘I Love You’ First?Really attractive, though older than me (10 years older actually). At one point, we got onto the subject of relationships, men and women. I could answer it here, but you might as well just read the post all about it: Guy doesn’t text back Understanding Male-to-Female Attraction: Here are a couple of hot topics in the realm of male-female attraction. Here’s a whole bunch in that arena: Does He Like Me? There is a wide range of “does he like me” questions that I get. Short answer is that you can, but probably shouldn’t since you’ll be left wondering he would have done it had you not been such an “eager beaver”.