With life pulling us left, right and sideways, it’s no wonder smartphones have become the ultimate human sidekicks, making our lives easier in so many ways.People all over the world use smartphones and apps for expedited communication and for interactive purposes such as playing games, listening to music, browsing, taking and sharing pictures and so on.They’re dating/sleeping with others and even though it makes you feel like crap, you stick around.You sit at the round table in their harem, fawning over them and competing for their attention.
They tell you that they’re married/have a partner after they’ve been acting like they’re single and you don’t so much as flinch – they then know that you’re likely up for playing the third wheel.
They say “You know where I am if you change your mind” after you told them to take a run and jump because they’re attached/otherwise unavailable/a dipstick.
You play The Good Girl/Guy and suckerdart yourself to them as Friend of the Year post breakup so they can recognise your greatness, validate you, and hopefully see the error of their ways – they think “Hmmm, looks like they’re OK with being tapped up for a shag from time to time”.
You’re giving them freedom and the right to ‘choose’ you while curtailing your own freedom and diminishing your self-esteem and your boundaries in the process which removes your power and creates a greatly imbalanced ‘relationship’.
Instead of being in an equitable, mutual partnering, you hand over all of your power and then lay down and let a doormat sprout from you.